Peter

A Sheep Strolls Through 1 Peter 2:11-12

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Living the Good Life

Dear friend,

As you open your heart to the Lord today, hear these tender words from the apostle Peter:

“Dear friends, I urge you, as foreigners and exiles, to abstain from sinful desires, which wage war against your soul. Live such good lives among the pagans that, though they accuse you of doing wrong, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day he visits us.”
— 1 Peter 2:11-12 (NIV)

Peter writes to believers who felt out of place in the world around them—and he writes to us too. He doesn’t scold us; he urges us with love. He reminds us of who we truly are: foreigners and exiles. This world is not our final home. Our citizenship is in heaven, and our hearts are meant to long for our true country.

Because we belong to another Kingdom, Peter gives us two beautiful invitations.

First, he calls us to abstain from sinful desires. These longings are not harmless—they are actively “waging war against your soul.” They promise satisfaction but deliver emptiness, distraction, and distance from God. Yet Peter doesn’t leave us discouraged. He simply reminds us that we have the power, through the Holy Spirit, to say no to what would harm us. Every time we turn away from sin, we are choosing life for our souls.

Second, he invites us to live such good lives that even those who don’t know Jesus will notice. The word “good” here carries the idea of beautiful, attractive, excellent living. Not perfect living—none of us can manage that—but lives marked by kindness, integrity, patience, generosity, and quiet faithfulness. When people watch us and cannot explain our peace or our love, something beautiful happens: they catch a glimpse of the God we serve. Our lives become living invitations for others to glorify Him.

This is the heart of Christian witness—not loud arguments, but quiet, consistent goodness that points people to Jesus.

Personal Reflection Questions

Take a few quiet moments with the Lord and gently ask yourself:

  1. In what areas of my life do I most feel like a “foreigner and exile” right now? How does remembering my true home help me in those places?
  2. What sinful desires are currently “waging war” against my soul? (Be honest and specific.) What would it look like to bring those desires to Jesus today and ask for His help to abstain?
  3. If someone watched my life for a week with no knowledge of my faith, what “good deeds” would they see? Are there any areas where my life might actually confuse or hinder others from seeing Jesus?
  4. Is there someone in my sphere (a coworker, neighbor, family member, or friend) who has accused or misunderstood me? How might God be inviting me to respond with consistent goodness instead of defensiveness?
  5. What is one simple, practical way I can “live a good life” this week that could quietly point someone toward the goodness of God?

A Closing Prayer

Lord Jesus, thank You that I am not a stranger to You. Though I am a foreigner here, I am deeply loved and fully known by You. Help me to walk away from anything that wars against my soul. Give me the grace to live a beautiful life—not for my own glory, but so that others might see You and be drawn to Your light. May my ordinary days become quiet testimonies of Your goodness. I love You, Lord. Amen.

You are not alone in this journey, dear friend. The same Spirit who raised Jesus from the dead lives in you and will help you live well for Him today.

Walk gently, and keep your eyes on Jesus.

A Sheep Strolls Through 1 Peter 2:9-10

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Chosen and Special

Dear friend,

I’m so glad you’re here. Come and settle your heart for just a few minutes. Let these words from 1 Peter wash over you like a warm embrace:

“But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light. Once you were not a people, but now you are the people of God; once you had not received mercy, but now you have received mercy.”
— 1 Peter 2:9-10 (NIV)

What a tender reminder of who you truly are.

God doesn’t look at you and see someone ordinary or forgotten. He sees someone He chose. Before you ever chose Him, He chose you. You are part of a royal priesthood—meaning you have direct, beautiful access to the Father, and you get to represent Him with dignity and love. You belong to a holy nation, set apart not because you’re perfect, but because He has made you His own. And most wonderfully of all, you are His special possession—His treasured one. You are deeply loved, not for what you do, but simply because you are His.

These beautiful titles are not just poetic language—they are God’s loving declaration over your life. When He calls you “chosen,” He is reminding you that your story was never an accident. He saw you, knew you, and picked you on purpose. As a royal priesthood, you carry both the privilege of coming boldly into God’s presence and the honor of bringing others to Him through your prayers and your life. Being part of a holy nation means you are set apart to reflect His goodness in a world that often feels chaotic and unkind. And as His special possession, you are held close to His heart—like a cherished treasure He delights in.

These verses also tell the story of your transformation. There was a time when you felt like you didn’t quite belong anywhere. Maybe you felt lost in darkness, unsure of your worth or your place. But everything changed the moment Jesus called your name. He brought you out of that darkness and into His wonderful light. Now you are part of God’s family. Now you have received mercy—real, life-giving mercy that you didn’t earn and can never lose.

This mercy is not a one-time event; it is the ongoing atmosphere you now live in. Every time you feel unworthy, every time old shame tries to whisper that you don’t belong, you can gently remind your heart: “I have received mercy. I am no longer defined by what I once was.” The same grace that rescued you is still holding you, still shaping you, and still inviting you to walk in freedom.

Your new identity isn’t just something beautiful to believe; it comes with a gentle purpose. You get to declare His praises. Not with perfect words or a perfect life, but with a heart that has been touched by His mercy. Your story, your kindness, your quiet trust, even your honest struggles can all become a living testimony of the God who brings people out of darkness and into light.

In everyday moments, this calling looks simpler and more beautiful than we often imagine. It can be a whispered “thank You” while folding laundry, a gentle word of encouragement to a coworker, a patient response when you feel irritated, or simply living with quiet joy that points others to the One who has been so good to you. You don’t have to preach to declare His praises—sometimes the most powerful proclamation is a life that has been softened by mercy.

Personal Reflection Questions

Take a few slow breaths and sit with these questions. There’s no rush—let the Holy Spirit speak to your heart.

  1. When you read that you are “God’s special possession,” what rises in your heart? Is there a place in your life where you still struggle to believe you are truly treasured by Him?
  2. The verse says you were called “out of darkness into his wonderful light.” What darkness has God already brought you out of? How does remembering that journey help you trust Him with whatever darkness you may still be facing?
  3. As someone who is now part of a “royal priesthood,” how might you live today with a greater awareness that you have direct access to God and that your life can represent Him to others?
  4. What is one simple way you could “declare the praises” of God this week—through your words, your attitude, or your actions?
  5. Is there someone in your life who still feels like “they are not a people”? How might God want to use your story of mercy to help them feel welcomed and loved?

As you ponder these questions, you may want to journal your answers or simply talk them over with the Lord in prayer. There is no pressure to have perfect responses—only an invitation to let these truths sink deeper into your heart.

Before you go, take a moment to pray with me:

Lord Jesus, thank You for choosing me, for calling me out of darkness, and for making me Your own. Help me to see myself the way You see me—as Your treasured possession. Give me courage to live out this beautiful identity today, and let my life quietly declare how good and merciful You are. Amen.

You are chosen. You are loved. You belong.
Walk in that truth today, dear friend.

The light is already shining on you.

With warmth and grace,
Your fellow sheep on the journey

A Sheep Strolls Through 1 Peter 2:4-8

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Living Stones on the Chosen Cornerstone


“As you come to him, a living stone rejected by men but in the sight of God chosen and precious, you yourselves like living stones are being built up as a spiritual house, to be a holy priesthood, to offer spiritual sacrifices acceptable to God through Jesus Christ.”

Beloved friends,

As you sip your morning coffee or afternoon tea, picture a massive construction site. The Architect has already laid the foundation stone—the most important one in the entire building. It was examined, chosen with great care, and declared precious. Yet when the builders arrived, they looked at it and said, “This stone doesn’t fit our plans. We reject it.”

That stone is Jesus.

The world still looks at Him and says the same thing. His claims are too narrow. His cross is too offensive. His lordship is too absolute. But what the world rejects, the Father has chosen and made precious. And here is the wonder of grace: the same Father who chose the Stone has also chosen you to be joined to Him.

You are not a dead stone. You are a living stone—made alive by the same Spirit who raised Jesus from the dead. And right now, the Father is carefully placing you into His building. You are not building the church; He is building you into the church. Every trial that presses against you, every relationship that rubs you the wrong way, every season of waiting—the Master Builder is using it all to fit you perfectly into His spiritual house.

Because you belong to Christ, you also share in His priesthood. You don’t need a special robe or a temple in Jerusalem. You have direct access to the Father through Jesus. Your ordinary life—your prayers, your work, your kindness to your neighbor, your quiet faithfulness when no one is watching—these are the “spiritual sacrifices” that rise as a pleasing aroma to God, all made acceptable because they are offered through Christ.

And here is your security: the Stone that holds the whole building together will never move. Those who trust in Him will never be put to shame. The same Stone that is the foundation of our hope is, for those who refuse Him, a stone they trip over. But for us who have been given the gift of faith, He is our sure and steady Cornerstone.

You are not alone on this construction site. You are being built together with brothers and sisters from every nation, every generation, and every walk of life. The building is still rising. One day it will be complete, and the glory of the Lord will fill it.

Until that day, rest in this: the Stone the builders rejected has become the head of the corner—and you are safely built into Him.

Personal Reflection Questions

  1. When you feel overlooked, criticized, or “rejected” by people, how does knowing that you are joined to the Stone whom God has chosen and declared precious bring comfort to your heart?
  2. In what specific ways is God currently “building you up” as a living stone? Are there any areas in your life where you’re resisting His chisel because you’d rather stay comfortable where you are?
  3. As a member of God’s holy priesthood, what spiritual sacrifices (praise, obedience, generosity, forgiveness, intercession, etc.) has the Lord been prompting you to offer through Christ lately?
  4. How does this passage affect the way you think about the local church? Do you see yourself more as a “consumer” or as a living stone being carefully placed by God for the good of the whole building?
  5. Take a moment to thank God for His sovereign grace. How does it move your heart to know that both the Cornerstone and your place in His house are the result of His choosing, not your own effort or worthiness?

Closing Prayer

Heavenly Father,

We come to You with grateful hearts, thanking You for the great mercy You have shown us in Jesus Christ. Thank You for choosing Him as the precious and chosen cornerstone, and for graciously placing us as living stones into the spiritual house You are building

.Forgive us, Lord, for the times we have lived as though we were independent stones—trying to build our own lives or shape our own futures apart from You. Help us to come to Jesus daily with humble, trusting hearts. Shape us by Your Word and Spirit. Use every circumstance, every relationship, and every trial to fit us more perfectly into Your purposes.

Make us faithful priests in Your house. Teach us to offer spiritual sacrifices that are pleasing to You—lives of worship, obedience, love, and service—all made acceptable through our Lord Jesus. Knit us together with other believers so that Your church may be strong, beautiful, and united in Him.

When we face rejection or opposition for following Christ, remind us that we are joined to the Stone the world rejected but You have exalted. Keep us from stumbling, and give us courage to stand firm on the Cornerstone who will never fail.We rest in the promise that those who trust in Him will never be put to shame. Finish the good work You have begun in us, until the day the building is complete and we see You face to face.

We pray all of this in the name of Jesus, our living Cornerstone. Amen.

A Sheep Strolls Through 1 Peter 1:22-2:3

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Born Again to Love Deeply and Grow Strong

Dear friend,

There is something so tender about the way God speaks to us in these verses. He doesn’t begin with a list of things we must do. He begins with what He has already done in us.

“Now that you have purified yourselves by obeying the truth so that you have sincere love for each other, love one another deeply, from the heart.” (1 Peter 1:22)

God has already purified your heart through the truth of the gospel. That cleansing wasn’t just so you could feel clean—it was so you could love. Not with polite, surface-level kindness, but with a deep, genuine love that comes from the heart. This kind of love is possible because something miraculous has happened to you: you have been born again.

Not by anything temporary or fragile, but “through the living and enduring word of God.” Human glory fades like flowers in a field. Our strength, our reputation, even our best efforts eventually wither. But the Word that brought you to new life will never wither. It is alive. It is still working in you today.

Because of this new birth, Peter gives us a beautiful invitation:“Like newborn babies, crave pure spiritual milk, so that by it you may grow up in your salvation, now that you have tasted that the Lord is good.” (1 Peter 2:2-3)

Newborn babies don’t politely sip their milk—they hunger for it with everything in them. They know where their life comes from. In the same way, we are invited to come to God’s Word with that same simple, eager hunger. Not out of duty, but because we’ve already tasted how good the Lord is. Once you’ve tasted His kindness, His faithfulness, and His love, nothing else quite satisfies the soul.

So Peter tells us to clear away anything that would keep us from growing: malice, deceit, hypocrisy, envy, and slander. These things don’t belong in a heart that has been purified and reborn. They crowd out the very love and hunger God wants to grow in us.

Today, the same living Word that gave you new life is still speaking. It is still able to purify your heart, deepen your love for others, and satisfy your soul like nothing else can.

A Simple Prayer

Lord Jesus, thank You for the new life You have given me through Your Word. Thank You that my heart has been purified and that I am loved by You with a love that never fades. Help me to love others deeply and sincerely from the heart. Stir up in me a fresh hunger for Your Word—like a newborn baby longing for milk. Remove anything in me that hinders love or growth, and let me keep tasting how good You are. In Jesus’ name, Amen.

Personal Reflection Questions

Take a few quiet moments with the Lord and gently consider these:

  1. When you think about being “born again” through God’s living Word, what does that mean to you personally right now?
  2. Is there someone in your life God may be prompting you to love more deeply and sincerely? What might that look like this week?
  3. What attitudes or habits (malice, envy, complaining, etc.) might be crowding out your hunger for God’s Word?
  4. In what simple, practical way could you “crave pure spiritual milk” this week? (For example, a certain time of day, a certain passage, or a way of praying as you read.)
  5. How have you recently “tasted that the Lord is good”? How does remembering that goodness stir your desire to grow?

May the Lord meet you gently in His Word today and fill your heart with both His love and a fresh hunger for more of Him. You are deeply loved.

A Sheep Strolls Through 1 Peter 1:17-25

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Living as Those Who Have Been Deeply Loved

Dear friend,

Take a slow, deep breath and settle your heart as we read these tender yet powerful words together:

Since you call on a Father who judges each person’s work impartially, live out your time as foreigners here in reverent fear. For you know that it was not with perishable things such as silver or gold that you were redeemed from the empty way of life handed down to you from your ancestors, but with the precious blood of Christ, a lamb without blemish or defect. He was chosen before the creation of the world, but was revealed in these last times for your sake. Through him you believe in God, who raised him from the dead and glorified him, and so your faith and hope are in God.
Now that you have purified yourselves by obeying the truth so that you have sincere love for each other, love one another deeply, from the heart. For you have been born again, not of perishable seed, but of imperishable, through the living and enduring word of God. For,
“All people are like grass,
and all their glory is like the flowers of the field;
the grass withers and the flowers fall,
but the word of the Lord endures forever.”
And this is the word that was preached to you.
(1 Peter 1:17-25, NIV)

Peter writes these words to believers who felt like strangers in the world—much like many of us do today. He gently reminds us that we have a Father in heaven who sees everything with perfect fairness and perfect love. Because of that, we’re invited to live our days here on earth with reverent fear—not the kind of fear that makes us anxious or afraid of God, but the kind that fills us with awe, respect, and a desire to honor Him in everything we do.

The most beautiful part? Our redemption was never cheap. It wasn’t bought with money or good behavior. It cost the precious blood of Jesus—the spotless Lamb who was planned and prepared by God long before the world began. This wasn’t a last-minute rescue; it was the loving plan of our Father all along. Through Jesus, our faith and hope are now securely anchored in God Himself.

And because we have been made new—born again by the living, enduring Word of God—something wonderful happens inside us: we are purified so that we can love one another sincerely and deeply, from the heart. Not surface-level kindness, but the kind of love that flows from a heart that has been touched by grace.

Everything else around us is temporary. Our achievements, our looks, our possessions—they’re like grass and flowers that bloom for a season and then fade. But the Word of the Lord, the truth that saved us and is still saving us, will never fade. It endures forever.

Personal Reflection Questions
Take a few quiet moments with the Lord and gently ask yourself:

  1. When I remember that God is my loving Father who sees my life with perfect fairness, how does that affect the way I live my ordinary days? Is there any area where I’ve been living as if this world is all there is?
  2. The price of my redemption was the precious blood of Jesus. How does meditating on that costly, personal love move my heart today? Where do I need to let gratitude sink deeper?
  3. “Love one another deeply, from the heart.” Is there someone in my life right now whom God is inviting me to love more sincerely and intentionally? What might that look like this week?
  4. In a world that feels so fleeting and uncertain, how does knowing that God’s Word endures forever bring me comfort or courage right now?
  5. What does “reverent fear” look like in my actual life—not as a heavy burden, but as a gentle, loving response to the One who has loved me so well?

A Closing Prayer


Heavenly Father,
Thank You for being both my loving Father and my holy God. Thank You for redeeming me—not with anything temporary, but with the precious blood of Jesus. Help me live these days as someone who has been deeply loved and made new. Give me a heart that honors You with reverent awe and overflows with sincere, deep love for others. Let Your enduring Word be my steady foundation when everything else feels like it’s fading. I love You, Lord. In Jesus’ precious name, Amen.

You are deeply loved, friend. Walk today in the beautiful freedom and holy purpose that comes from being redeemed by such a costly, eternal love.

A Sheep Strolls Through 1 Peter – 1:1-12

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Dear friend,

Come and sit with me for a few quiet moments as we open the beautiful letter of 1 Peter. These words were written to believers who felt scattered, misunderstood, and sometimes weary. Yet Peter greets them—and us—with such tender hope. Open your Bible to the book of 1 Peter and let’s look at the first 12 verses together.

What a warm and steadying greeting this is. Peter doesn’t begin with our struggles—he begins with who we are in God’s heart. We are not forgotten wanderers. We are elect—chosen by the Father in love, set apart by the Spirit, and brought near through the precious blood of Jesus. Even when life feels scattered or uncertain, heaven knows exactly where you are and who you belong to.

Peter then breaks into praise because of the “lively hope” we have been given. Not a fragile wish, but a living, breathing hope anchored in the resurrection of Jesus. Because He lives, our future is secure. We have an inheritance that can never be lost, damaged, or taken away—kept safely in heaven, guarded by God’s own power. And while we wait, His power is also guarding us through faith.

This doesn’t mean we won’t face heavy seasons. Peter is honest about that. There will be times when grief and trials press in. But even those difficult days are being used by God like a refiner’s fire. Your faith is more valuable to Him than gold. Every tear, every prayer whispered in the dark, every moment you choose to trust anyway—these are not wasted. They are shaping something beautiful that will one day bring praise and honor to Jesus.

And here is the tender part that always moves my heart: even though we have never seen Jesus with our eyes, we love Him. We believe in Him. And that belief fills us with a joy that words can hardly contain. This is the very salvation the prophets longed to understand and that angels themselves peek into with wonder. What a privilege is ours!

Personal Reflection Questions

Take a slow, honest breath and sit with these questions. There are no wrong answers—just an invitation to let God’s Word speak gently to your heart.

  1. When you read that you are “elect according to the foreknowledge of God the Father,” how does that truth settle or comfort you today? In what area of your life do you most need to remember that you are chosen and deeply loved by God?
  2. Peter calls our hope “lively” (living). Is there a place in your heart where hope feels a little tired or faded right now? How might the resurrection of Jesus breathe fresh life into that area?
  3. What trial or “heaviness” are you carrying at the moment? Can you picture God using it, like fire on gold, to make your faith more precious and beautiful?
  4. “Whom having not seen, you love.” When was the last time you felt a quiet, deep love for Jesus rise in your heart? What helps you nurture that love even when you can’t see Him?
  5. The prophets searched diligently and angels long to look into the salvation you have received. How does knowing you carry something so precious and longed-for change the way you see your ordinary days?

Friend, whatever season you’re in, you are not alone. You are held by the same power that raised Jesus from the dead. Your inheritance is safe. Your faith is being refined with care. And the joy set before you is real.

May the grace and peace Peter prayed over those early believers rest warmly on you today.

With love in Christ,
Your companion in the journey

Standing Firm

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In 1 Peter chapter 5 these words are written, “Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. 9 Resist him, standing firm in the faith, because you know that the family of believers throughout the world is undergoing the same kind of sufferings.” Ephesians 6:11 tells us to “Put on the full armor of God, so that you will be able to stand firm against the schemes of the devil.” 

Notice that in both cases we are called to stand firm. In almost 35 years of ministry, I have encountered evil many times, in many forms. I have seen people controlled by evil spirits, paranormal activity and things that don’t seem to have an earthly explanation. Unlike other individuals who go around seeking out encounters with spirits or claiming to do exorcisms, my encounters always happened in the normal course of doing ministry.

Instead of rebuking the enemy or seeking a “power encounter”, I have learned simply to stand firm and in doing so, the enemy has to retreat. I call on my Heavenly Father to give me the strength to endure and to stand firm while also calling on my Lord and Master Jesus to deal with the evil in front of me. Could I rebuke the unclean spirits in my authority as a Child of God? Yes. But I can also appeal to my Lord who is always with me. Now, if He says, “I will let you del with this one”, so be it. Until then, I will resist the evil, pray to the Lord to overcome my enemy and continue to stand firm in the face of all dangers.

Simply having the strength to stand firm in the face of terrible evil is difficult. It is overpowering, full of depravity and uncleanness. It is emotionally taxing, especially for those of us who are empathetic in nature. It is frightening when facing non-mortal entities and experiencing some of their power. Standing firm takes a lot of spiritual strength.

Ephesians 6 goes on to say, “13 Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. 14 Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, 15 and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace.” Three times here we are told to stand. We prepare by putting on the belt of truth, the breastplate of righteousness and the gospel of peace. All this, just to stand firm. James 4:7 tells us to resist the devil and he will flee from us. We don’t have to attack him, we just have to resist, to stand firm, and like a strong seawall, his waves of attack will break against us and fail, leaving him no choice but to retreat.

We don’t roll over, freeze up or cower in fear – we stand. We also do not go seeking trouble, challenging what we don’t fully understand, but we stand firm in the truth. We stand firm in presenting the gospel, we stand firm in discipling the nations, we stand firm in advocating for morality, decency and peace. We don’t abdicate our responsibility. We keep our eyes on Jesus and stand in Him alone. He is our Shield and Defender. He is our Rock in whom we trust. Who shall we fear, knowing the Lord is for us.

Be encouraged, then, when the enemy reveals himself and you encounter evil. Stand firm in the strength of the Lord and watch the enemy retreat.

Days of Praise — Day 30

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TAKE MY HAND, PRECIOUS LORD  by Thomas Dorsey

Precious Lord, take my hand, Lead me on, let me stand

I am tired, I am weak, I am worn

Through the storm, Through the night

Lead me on to the light, Take my hand, precious Lord

Lead me home,

When my way grows drear, Precious Lord, linger near

When my life is almost gone, Hear my cry

Hear my call, Hold my hand

Lest I fall, Take my hand, precious Lord

Lead me home

When the darkness appears, And the night draws near

And the day is past and gone, At the river I stand

Guide my feet, Hold my hand

Take my hand, precious Lord, Lead me home

               Many hymns were written out of tragedies, and this one was no exception. Thomas Dorsey was a fantastic musician and song writer who was devastated when his wife died giving birth to their child, who also later died. Filled with despair, he lost faith in God being a good and caring God. Deep in his grief, God reached out to him one as he sat at a friend’s house, overshadowing him with peace and filling his heart with love. Immediately he started playing a melody and these words welled up from inside him.

               We can all empathize with him because we, too, at times in our life have had our faith challenged. Few us there are who have not been touched with death or tragedy. Few of us there are who have not known despair at the circumstances we find ourselves in. Like the disciples on the boat in the storm, we have a feeling that any moment life is going to drown us. Thankfully, God is in control. He does have a plan, and it is a good one because He is good.

               We can, like Peter found out, grab hold of His hand when we are in danger of drowning and He can lift us up to walk above the storms of life. He is all we need. When He is all there is we find Him to be more than sufficient, more than enough. He is God. All-knowing. All-caring. All-powerful. All-wise. All-good. He is God.

               When we are overwhelmed we need to simply cry out to Him, “Lord, take my hand.” He will. He will lead us to Himself, where we will find rest for our burdened souls. “Come to Me” is His invitation. He will never turn us away

Lord, take my hand today. Lead me to You. I do not know what today entails for my life, but You do. I can easily lose sight of You, lose perspective, lose hope. Keep me in Your hand, so that I am not overwhelmed by life, but so I can rest in You. Amen

The Sin That Springs Up

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Bitterness is a terrible sin that afflicts many people. It is the type of sin that seems to  spring up, although in reality it has long lain dormant in our lives. No one grows up wanting to be a bitter old man or a bitter old lady and yet so many people in today’s society are bitter. Teenagers, young adults, senior citizens, both inside and outside of Christendom can become bitter. Warnings in Scripture abound about this insidious sin:

 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Ephesians 4:31-32

Pursue peace with all men, and the sanctification without which no one will see the Lord.  See to it that no one comes short of the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble, and by it many be defiled; Hebrews 12:14-15

Sometimes guilt is confused with bitterness. Guilt is what we feel when we sin. Bitterness is what we feel when others sin against us. Bitterness is almost always based on someone else’s sin against us, whether that sin was real or imaginary. What do I mean by this? Imaginary sin is when we think someone said or did something against us that they really didn’t do. We get bitter waiting over an apology that will never come because we only thought we were harmed.

Some sins against us are real. Bitterness is not concerned with how big the sin is, it is based on how close it is to you. It does not depend on how great the evil was, it depends on how close the offending person was to you. Bitterness is directly related to those people we are (or were) closest to.

Hebrews 12:15 describes bitterness as a root. Roots are mainly underground. They are rarely seen. The effects of roots though, that can be readily seen. They break up sidewalks, roads, water pipes. They extend deep into the ground and spread out over a wide area. Roots drink in nourishment and eventually a sprout comes up above ground. Later a plant grows and bears fruits or seeds.

The fruit that is born bears a direct relationship to the root producing it. Apple seeds grow apple tree roots that support apple trees which bear apples. A bitter root in your heart will grow deep and wide, supporting, sprouting and producing bitter fruit. We are told that bitterness defiles many people. That word for defile means to make people filthy. Bitterness spreads like a wildfire, consuming families, workplaces, churches and classes of people. The Bible says we have to get rid of it. Why? Because bitterness, is not only defiling and hurtful, it is also unspiritual – straight from the devil. James 3:14-15 says:  But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition in your heart, do not be arrogant and so lie against the truth. This wisdom is not that which comes down from above, but is earthly, natural, demonic. If not gotten rid of quickly, bitterness will result in evil practices which will defile both you and those around you.

Before you can get rid of bitterness, you must recognize it. How can you tell if you have a root of bitterness in you, waiting to spring up? Bitterness remembers details. You have thousands of conversations in your lifetime. How many of them do you remember in detail, word for word? Not only the words, but the intonation, inflection, gestures and facial expressions of the other party? Most of the ones we recall are those we feel sinned against by. Memory is helped by review, review, review. A constant reviewing of slights, real or imagined, leads to bitterness. I see this over and over in divorce counseling and family counseling. Conversations from years back are replayed in great detail when a party is hurt but positive conversations are fuzzy in the related details.

In order to get rid of bitterness we have to recognize, admit, and confess we have a problem. And the problem is with us – not the other party. Many times, I hear people say, “I’m not bitter. I just get my feelings hurt easily.” Really? Oversensitivity leads to resentment which turns to bitterness very quickly if not dealt with. You see, bitterness is just resentment that has been held on to. It is resentment that has festered and rotted.

We must recognize how insidious bitterness is. How evil it is. Bitterness always wants to blame the other person, the one who has hurt us. We don’t deal with the sin of bitterness so long as we think continue to think it is the others person’s sin. “When he quits lying” or “When she stops doing this” or “When they apologize to me for…” What if the other person never stops, never apologizes, never even recognizes that they have hurt you? Are you going to be resentful and bitter forever? A Christian cannot. He or she must forgive others even as Christ forgave us for sinning against Him.

When bitterness takes root even an apology will not get rid of it. Bitterness is always the sin of the bitter person alone, unrelated to anyone else. You and you alone choose to remain angry at another and withhold forgiveness. Christ went to the cross for us before we repented of any sin. We were unworthy and undeserving of this kindness and we are to show that type of grace and mercy to others.

In order to eradicate bitterness from my life I have to see that it is evil, satanic and that it is my sin and my sin alone. I do not get rid of it through the other person apologizing. I do not get rid of it if the other person stops their actions or if they die. I do not get rid of it any other way except calling it a sin against a holy God, confessing it and receiving His forgiveness.

If this is not done, bitterness will devastate you spiritually. If you have unresolved bitterness in your life then you are not right with God. You are not walking according to His Spirit but according to your flesh. It will devastate those closest to you. It will infect family, friends and your brothers and sisters in the church.

In Galatians chapter 5 the fruit of the Spirit is listed. Such things as love, joy, peace, patience, gentleness, and godliness are mentioned. When you are bitter towards someone you withhold love and you don’t feel joy around them. You are in turmoil, no peace. You are not patient with them nor are you gentle with them. You are not walking in the Spirit. Galatians goes on to say we reap what we sow. Bitterness halts spiritual growth altogether.  Remember, if you are not walking in the Spirit then you are not growing in the Spirit either.

Bitterness also destroys you emotionally. Bitterness will lead to discouragement and paranoia. You develop a victim mentality, believing that person is always out to get you. Eventually you may believe that about everyone else as well. You become negative, critical of others, always finding some fault even when they do something well. You become judgmental of their motives and secretly wish them ill, hoping they fail at whatever they try to do.

After admitting our bitterness, confessing it to God and asking His forgiveness, we need to pray for others. Not about them, but for them. To pray that God draws them close to Himself and they become great instruments for Him to use. Think of those people you don’t get along with, those you don’t particularly care for. Can you pray this for them? If not, check your heart. You might have a root of bitterness lurking, waiting to spring up.